Quality of Life Month: Create the Mindset that Allows More Joy in YOUR Life

The amount of joy you have in your life depends more on your mindset than on your circumstances.  When your mind is set on more of the positives in life and less on the negatives you will find more joy and fulfillment entering your life:

Martha Washington Mindset Quote

Last Saturday night I received the scariest phone call of my life.

“Jodi, Shianne has been hit by a car.

Get to the corner of Erickson and Allen right now.

Don’t ask questions, just get here.

She will be ok.”

 Shianne is my daughter. 

On the phone, my boyfriend, Eric. 

Shianne, a fitness enthusiast, wanted to go to the gym to work out, but due to the holidays the gym was closing early, so she set out with the dogs for a nice long walk.

Eric took some back roads to my house and got lost (after 4 ½ years of dating he got lost on the way to my house) but ended up driving by the accident scene seconds after it happened, recognized our dogs and my daughter, pulled over and called me before helping out in every way he could.

Before the call was over I was in my car headed to the scene…with a fear I had never felt before.

Over the next few hours my daughter was taken to the emergency room via ambulance, CT Scanned, X-rayed, and all abrasions cleaned up.  She had clear CT Scan results, no broken bones, and abrasions that needed no stitches.  Within four hours of the incident she was home in bed to let the healing begin.  She is bruised all down the left side of her body, an abrasion on the left side of her forehead, a blackened eye and cheek, on-going headaches and neck pain, and a knee that is swollen, locks up and makes walking difficult.  But we are hopeful all will heal with time and a bit more medical care.

This was a situation that could have been so much worse had a few factors been slightly different, so we are extremely grateful that if this had to happen it was as it was and no different.  Is it possible that this horrible incident was perfectly orchestrated for the benefit of all involved?

Over the last few days Shianne and I have noticed that our mindset is what is getting us through this situation in a way that surprises us.  And today as I was considering what to write I was happy to realize we are living these tips I encourage.  I share these not to try to brag about us, but to demonstrate that when we consider these and truly desire to bring these strategies into the world we get the opportunity to do so and learn for ourselves their value.


Mindset Tip 1:

Ignite Gratitude

The simplest way to form a positive connection with the people and things     around you is to ignite your sense of gratitude.  When trouble is bringing you down, you     have lost your sense of connection, and life seems to not be flowing in     your favor reverse the current by getting into a state a gratitude for all     the blessings that are surrounding you. 

Mindset Tip 2:

Practice Positive Thinking

Your mindset can be influenced by your environment.  Replace the negative influences with     positive and uplifting people, events, and environments.  Nourish your spirit and see things in a     positive light.  Even if the positive     light is just a spark it can be transformed into a flame when fueled.

Mindset Tip 3:

Eliminate Self Imposed Limitations

Nothing binds us more than the chains we bind ourselves with.  Our patterns of speech, our choices, the     risks we take or refuse, and the way we view the world all create the     limitations we live within.  Our     self-imposed limitations keep us safe, but also keep us from changing our lives for the better. 

Mindset Tip 4:

The Power of Choice

Our lives are the results of our previous choices.  If we want things different and better,     we have to make the choices that align to our true desires and take full responsibility for those choices and their results.


Ignite Gratitude

When I arrived on the accident scene and spoke with my daughter I realized things could have been so much worse.  The car was low to the ground so Shianne went onto the hood of the car instead of being knocked down and under the car.  The car was moving at a low speed, turning onto the road instead of moving at a higher speed down the road, and the driver stopped and was cooperating in any way he could instead of leaving the scene or trying to blame her.

Practice Positive Thinking

This situation was scary, no doubt the fear was the most prevalent thought in my soul, but I know we can make this situation worse by turning to the negative or make it the best possible by keeping a positive tone.  I firmly believe the most powerful aids to healing are rest or sleep and a positive belief that full and complete healing will take place.

Eliminate Self Imposed Limitations

An easy place to go to in this situation is to blame the driver for the pain, suffering, and inconvenience he has caused my daughter, our dogs, and me.  It would be easy to make him the source of my frustration and bind myself up in anger, but I know he was also greatly impacted by this situation.  This was in no way an intentional act; it was an unfortunate and perhaps careless act.  He too is suffering.

The Power of Choice

One of the things I was fully aware of in this situation was the impact I could have on all involved with a careless response or a caring response.  In spite of all my emotions I think I chose the caring response, even sending a message to the driver after Shianne was released from the hospital letting him know that she was released with no injuries to her brain, no broken bones, and no stitches.  His response was the same and his insurance company accepted liability without any issues.  We all chose the high road.

Develop Your Intuition

This was one of the great self-lessons of this situation.  Shianne’s horoscope pointed to this incident, she even commented on it a few times since the beginning of the month and avoided driving at times because of the horoscope.  After Shianne had left for her walk I had a thought that she was going to be hit by a car and Eric would be there.  I brushed the thought off, there was nothing I could do with the info, but it prepared me to handle this emergency and all it involved in a way I could have only hoped for. I now look at the power of intuition in a new way, our intuition is often there to prepare us for the path we are about to take.

Accept Yourself and Others

Maybe this is what this blog post is primarily about…my own self-acceptance of me.  I did well in a situation that put me to the test.  The universe demonstrated that we all do the best of our abilities in all our situations.  This may be the beauty of emergency situations; the only preparation is how we live before and the values we hold dear, how we behave during the emergency is a testament of those values.


Mindset Tip 5:

Develop Your Intuition

You know you.  You know what you need better than anyone else.      Intuition is not for the clairvoyant only; we are all equipped with an internal navigation system. We just need to learn how to listen and     develop our skill to follow our intuitive self. 

Mindset Tip 6:

Accept Yourself and Others

When thinking about yourself does your mind flood with the many     positives that make you amazing or does your inner critic drown out the     good with what could be better about you and your life.  Learning to accept the amazing creation you are and those around you will allow you to radiate with a happy confident glow.

Mindset Tip 7:

Captivate Your Soul

When the soul is touched it is as though God has reached out and     embraced us.  We all need a spiritual practice that connects us with a higher power.  May that be God or simply the workings of the universe, it is important to appreciate, connect, and relish in the greatness of the world we live in.


Captivate Your Soul

As I write I write with a new recognition of the importance of my writing for my soul.  This is where I explore the bigger concepts of the world around me.  My writing is where my soul is captivated, where God greets me, speaks to me, and speaks through me.  This is my spiritual practice.

How to Use These Tips to Cultivate Your Mindset and Improve Your Quality of Life:

I used my own tips as a self-assessment of my own mindset and how it is serving me.  This has been a great way for me to work through this recent experience and the emotions of it all.  As a result I am proud of the woman I have become, excited about the woman my daughter is, and thankful for the people who come in and out of my life regardless of the situation.  I know the research and application of this topic has shaped me and those who surround me.

What is happening in your life?  Would a similar exploration of your mindset be beneficial for you?  It will show you areas where your mindset is serving you very well and other areas where you can learn and explore a bit more.

Think of your mind as fertile ground to be cultivated into something that serves you, guides you, and allows you to create an amazing life.  Left unguarded it can fall victim to whatever moves in.  Now is the time to start bringing in and acknowledging all the positives this life is offering you.  The more you can cultivate your mind and create a positive mindset the more positive experiences you will create and attract.  The more positive experiences you have, the more smiles you will also have.

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